Why does he lie to you?
WARNING: In this post the words “Guys” does not mean “all guys”, just those who lie………..which I guess IS all guys! So i guess I AM saying “ALL GUYS” when I type the word guys. (OK I am exhausted, can I quit talking now?
So many women I meet act like they are alone when it comes to love and romance. I get a ton of questions from women about guys. The one question I get the most is, “why do guys lie?” There’s no denying, guys lie. (Women lie, too, but we’ll deal with them later). but why do guys lie?
GUYS LIE BECAUSE OF WOMEN.
Guys lie:
1. To get sex from women.
2. To impress women….so they can get sex from women
3. To avoid conflict……so they can get sex from women
4. To get out of doing something….so they can think about getting sex from women
5. To get money so they can….(see 1-4)
The truth in all this, is somewhat disappointing. Guys lie because women want them to lie!
How can I say this? This must sound ridiculous, but it’s just a fact. Women want guys to lie to Them! (This is where you say, NOT all women, Like you are the exception to the rule!) I bet that YOU want guys to lie to you too! You say you want honesty but you don’t want the truth! You want “girl honesty.” Which is: something that sounds truthful but doesn’t hurt your feelings. Am I being mean? Ha-ha sorry, I am just being honest and that’s what you want that right? Of course he lies. You wouldn’t have it any other way. He has to lie. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t have even gotten past the first date. The whole dating/courtship process is based around lying. Dates are nothing but job interviews with food. Society calls it “manners” or having respect for the other people. But you truly had respect for someone. You would not find it necessary to lie and put on a fake act.
I am aware that every young girl dreams that her prince charming to gallop up on his white stallion. But this is a fairy tail and just like what the horse will leave on your driveway. Crap! If you want to be swept off your feet, you can’t be upset when you land on your butt. Let me say this, you want romance, and will get it. Guys will line up to show you what they will do, to win your love. But listen to me; no guy alive would have a candlelight dinner if he didn’t think it would impress you. It’s the typical love story of boy meets girl. Boy meets girl. Boy does everything he can to impress girl. Girl falls in love. Over time girl realizes that boy has changed (Which is not true because he hasn’t been being himself since the beginning) How could he be himself. Remember, he WANTED to impress you and win your love! Then over time you get upset because “he just isn’t as romantic anymore” or “he doesn’t do all those things he used to do” He only did them because you him wanted to. He is giving you what you want, so in return he can get what he wants. Can you guess what that is? (Even the prince in sleeping beauty didn’t wait for her to wake up before he tried getting a little action!)
Guys have been going out of their way to impress women ever since the first dumb caveman figured out that he would get to mate with the cute cave women if he impressed by giving her the shiniest rock. (He also ended up re-arranging the furniture in the cave every few weeks because it needed a cave women’s touch. UGG UGH, which means, “I think it would look better if the sitting rock was closer to the bone pile, in cave woman talk.) I am pretty sure you don’t want to believe this (because that would make you shallow) but your love IS for sale and always has been. But payment doesn’t have to be just cash, a big house or presents. You might want a candlelight dinner, or a moonlight walk. These are all forms of payment to buy your love. Guys act romantic because he knows that’s what you want. It’s expected! A guy doesn’t take moonlight walks unless he is with a girl, or is looking for worms so he can go fishing the next day. By asking him to do these things you are asking him to lie and be dishonest.
Now you are probably saying “no, I am not asking him to be dishonest, making him do things for me isn’t lying. I am just a princess and deserve to be treated like one.” (do you realize there is a website that will actually make you a REAL princess? www.becomearealprincess.com It’s sad! But if you are going to act like a princess, you might as well have the papers to prove it!) OK your highness, if you believe you are royalty that’s fine, but keep in mind that nobody tells the princess the truth because they don’t want to lose their head. You should do the same. Think about, he shouldn’t have to go out of his way to impress you. The right guy will naturally do this. Not by what he does, but how he does it, through honesty, trust, compassion and just by being himself. NOT jumping through hoops. If what he naturally doesn’t impress you then you are asking him to be someone he is not. Guess what? YOU ARE ASKING HIM TO LIE!
Let’s not forget about surprises. Do you love surprises? I never understood them, it all seems like a big lie to me. Your birthday rolls around but nobody notices! You are expecting people to say something, but hour after hour nothing. By 6:00 you feel like nobody loves you. You walked into your house and suddenly the lights turn on and everyone jumps out and yells “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!” Now, you feel loved! But you were tricked into believing that for almost the entire day that no one cared and everyone forgot about you and how did that feel? Are surprises really necessary? Once again its OK to lie here but it’s NOT OK to lie and cheat on you. I have to tell you dumb boys are not that smart! There needs to be a line drawn. There should not be occasions where lying is OK and other times where it’s the worst thing you can do to someone. “How could you do this to me? “ I guess being dishonest is OK if the lie is attached to some kind of surprise gift or party. (Look I bought you a diamond tiara.)
Now let’s go over this one more time. The party’s over, and its time for you to decide, do you want honesty or not? If YOU get to pick and chose when and where honesty is important, you can’t be surprised when he does the same and chooses to lie and cheat on you.
Why do guys lie? Because women want them to lie!
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