You try to hard.

You try to hard to be taller….you wear high heels even when your drunk.
You try to hard to look sexy…. you color your hair like a sunk.
You try to hard to look sophisticated,….. you even try to smoke.
But remember, NOBODY wants to to see… a streaky haired girl, stumble, fall and choke!

Just be yourself.

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In the last few weeks I have ran into a situation few times that I have been told is very common. I have to talk about it so I can figure this out.

I was talking to a girl who KNOWS her relationship isn’t working and she wants out. She told me that she was trying to gain the strength to pull the trigger and break up with him. She told me stories about how her boyfriend tells her things like “she won’t find anyone better” or nobody will want her because she is nothing special, fat, ugly, too dumb. I was amazed that she was trying to gather reasons to dump him because does she really need more reasons that that? This was my re-induction into the world of boyfriends that are so afraid of losing their girl they are willing to destroy her mentally.

Last night, I over heard a very similar story about a girl, who (just between you and I ) is one of the most amazing, pretty, strong, unique women, I have met in the last 5 years. But somehow she too has teamed up with a guy who puts her down and makes her question herself.

Now, I know I could ask whoever is reading this to explain why anyone would stay with a guy who makes them feel bad about themselves. But we all know why! Just like I understand why these guys do this. (Get control in order to create dependency.)

While there is really nothing, I can do or say to change this pattern, because lets face it. These types of insecure boyfriends have already put so much doubt into their girl’s head… it might be too late. Even though I DO believe in redemption and hope. It just feels like a lost cause! But if you are in a similar situation and there might be a chance for me to get though to you, let me just end this by saying one thing. A boyfriend isn’t suppose to make you feel bad! PERIOD! Someone who truly loves you won’t try to control you, create doubt, or put you down. With that said, I am sure nothing will change because you will keep trying to show him your worth because you want to show him you are good enough for him. (which is falling right into his trap) but I just wanted you to understand what’s happening.

Thanks

Scotty

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Yes, Scotty talks to girls on the radio…… but lately I have had a lot of people ask me if If I can do something a little more personal and private.

I know it would be great if you could just talk to your friends and family about your problems.. but the truth is, not only are they getting sick of hearing about your relationship/life problems. If you talk bad about your mate anymore, it’s going to be hard to get your friends and family to like them again. (Now you have another problem you have to work on)

So Here is something you can do.

“Personal and private Female Email” Email communications (weekly over one month period) – You will get 4 weekly email communications from Scotty (After your first initial email introducing yourself, your problem, and your main issues you are feeling) You will be able to send 4 emails throughout a one month period. Scotty will coach, make you laugh, and give you tips and personal insight to help put you on the path to feeling better about your relationship/life problems$50.00

**NOTE These services are NOT therapy. Award-winning radio host and Relationship Realist Scotty Gunther will help you see the humor in your serious relationship/life situations and act as an non-emotionally evolved outside observer. Scotty will bring an diffrent perspective to your situation.

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