Fear of Rejection

I have realized something in the last month or two. Now days, when it comes to relationships, everybody is afraid of rejection. Most people don’t have enough guts to be honest or take real chances in relationships. I have always hated dating because it seems insincere. (Why do I have to buy you food to “get to know you”,) but lately I am starting to think the problems with relationships today, is the lack of commitment, even in the beginning of the relationship.

A few years back, I wrote in my book, that I thought hanging out with someone is a better way to “get to know them” I see now that people use terms like “hanging out” or “just talking” as a way to avoid getting hurt. (let’s not forget “talking talking,” we will talk about that in a bit.) We are just talking or hanging out is NOT attached to any kind of real commitment and that means if it doesn’t work out, or someone better comes along, that’s OK because we were just “hanging out!”

Let me translate these three overused terms.
1) hanging out = We are messing around without any kind of commitment
2) Just talking = making plans to hang out.
3) talking talking = you are doing more than just talking see 1

I have always said “take your time, before you give your heart to someone” but I left a very important part off this. “take your time before you give your girl parts to someone!”

and if you want a relationship have enough guts to commit even if it’s just a commitment to get to know someone on honest terms without keeping your options open. (That is a rare find)

What I need to write about is, how NOT to always feel like you need someone. Because this is where most people go wrong.

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